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Is "negative energy" (whatever that actually *is*)
the underlying cause of interspousal-violence, or
shouting at the children? Perhaps there's
something more tangible that can be identified as
the root cause of the problem? |
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Does it follow that being unpleasant to someone
*other* than the wife or children will alleviate
these issues? What if it aggravates them instead?
And is this a morally sound basis on which to
provide therapy? |
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Is it really a case of exhausting yourself so that
you are no longer capable of rage by the time you
get home? Exhaustion and stress are likely to be
contributing factors to losing your temper. If
being unpleasant to someone else either
invigorates or relaxes you, then perhaps there is
something more fundamental going on. If physical
exhaustion helps as a temporary means of
managing the symptoms of your anger, then try
the gym, or going for a run. |
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Sometimes practical problems can cause stress
and bad-temper; Worrying about finances, long
commuting times, being overwhelmed by
responsibilities, being bullied at work and other
frustrations outside of the family home can build
up - only to be catastrophically released while in
the comparative safety of the family
environment. |
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For the client, expending more financial resources
on this kind of relief might exacerbate the
problem. |
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Worse, by paying someone to assist in practicing,
acting-out, or otherwise realising these kind of
violent behaviours, you might actually be
loosening any remaining barriers to that kind of
extreme behaviour that might already be in place.
If you become accustomed to venting your anger,
it may become an ingrained and unconscious
response. |
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In short, it could make things worse. |
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Finally, there are already widely known private
services locatable in various specialist
publications and underground scenes where you
can arrange, in exchange for cash, the services of
a willing (or not so willing, if that’s your thing)
participant in whatever unusual fantasies anyone
might care to act out – |
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But I'm curious, why a kiosk anyway? Doesn't that
kind of seem weird to you? What does the kiosk
part add, that some other existing arrangement
might lack? |
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Personally, I think it would be difficult to work
myself into a lather, at a kiosk. For me, getting
angry is a kind of spontaneous thing - I don't like
doing it in public, and I don't think I'd be able to
get angry, on demand, with a stranger - for no
good reason - it's one of those spontaneous things
that just happens at times of stress. For that
reason, I don't think I could turn up at a kiosk,
hand over a £20 note and start spitting bricks, but
maybe that's just me. |
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//I don't think I could turn up at a kiosk, hand over a £20 note and start spitting bricks//
I think that your link demolished your own argument there z_t...
z_t: "Right you bastard I'm really gonna let you have it!"
kiosk attendant: "Not until you pay you aren't."
z_t: "But I just paid you..."
etc, etc. |
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My point being that the kiosk attendant would have to be actively engaged in winding me up, before I could get properly into it. If they just passively stood there, *deliberately* not making me annoyed, after I've paid them good money for them to professionally provoke me...well, I'd soon show them a blimming thing or two. |
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I realize that Monty Python is fiction, so this isn't,
technically, widely-known-to- etc. But still.... |
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Future Shock was a good book, psychological economies and all that. That notion probably relates to the following somehow, I can't be bothered though. As illustrated in fine style by Joyce in the link, the services sector provides many clerks for those in management professions to take out their aggressions. That is well understood. The invention by the poster is an interesting idea, because it bestows abuser privilege upon all, perhaps even to the very kiosk worker himself. However, this is most certainly thoroughly baked, so the idea makes for good satire on the contemporary postindustrial condition. Perhaps this is the real manifestation of Toffler's psychological utopia, where each can abuse the other in turn in a perpetual reciprocation of servile roles. The clerk abuses the waiter who abuses the bus driver who abuses the clerk etc. and a 50%+ services economy is possible. Counterparts. |
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